Little Maya was all curly brown hair, doe-like dark eyes, and adorable in her shiny pink nightgown. I wanted to squeal, "Maya, you're so cute! Look at you! Turn around and model that pretty ruffled gown, you gorgeous thing!" But I didn't. I squelched myself.
|Little Vanessa. I've got the frills to pay the bills.|
Teaching girls that their appearance is the first thing you notice tells them that looks are more important than anything. It sets them up for dieting at age 5 and foundation at age 11 and boob jobs at 17 and Botox at 23. As our cultural imperative for girls to be hot 24/7 has become the new normal, American women have become increasingly unhappy. What's missing? A life of meaning, a life of ideas and reading books and being valued for our thoughts and accomplishments.
Never thought it about that way. Does this mean I won't ever compliment a little one on her outward appearance? No. I think girls and women need an all-encompassing sort of confidence. As someone mentioned in the article comments, avoiding "superficial" compliments altogether is the other extreme, and can be detrimental in its own way. While I think gender roles are connected to this story, I won't go into detail (at least for now) about my thoughts on the male vs. female brain, but I will say that the article comments are definitely worth reading.
What are your thoughts on the article?