Thursday, May 5, 2011

Marriage Advice from a Newbie

Today is my grandparents' 49th wedding anniversary. They got married on Cinco de Mayo because my grandpa won my grandma's heart much to the dismay of her then-boyfriend, who was French. So, just as the Mexicans defeated the French on May 5, 1862, my grandpa "defeated the French" on May 5, 1962.

Although I still consider myself a newlywed, I have picked up a few tidbits of helpful info during these last two years of marriage.
  • Don’t be rude.
  • Listen to him.
  • Laugh at stupid stuff together.
  • Trade massages.
  • You’re not always going to like each other. That’s ok.
  • Do not laugh at the way his ear lobes are attached to his head. Apparently these things are normal.
  • If you do happen to laugh at said ear lobe deformity trait, compliment him on something else.
  • Hold his hand in public.
  • Learn his love language. Make sure he learns yours.
  • Discuss money. Establish mutual guidelines. Finances can be boring, but they’re important.
  • Don't finish the bag of Trolli sour gummi worms
  • Be honest.
  • Never forget your identity. Even though two become one, you are still unique. Celebrate this.
  • Embrace the butterflies from the early days of dating.
  • Remind him that you’re proud of him.
  • Don't underestimate him.
  • Spray his cologne in the air when he's not around. 
  • Figure out ways to have fun together.
  • Figure out ways to have fun separately.
  • Establish traditions. Advent calendars at Christmas, quesadillas on Saturdays, etc.
What is one thing you've learned about marriage, or relationships in general? 


  1. What a great post! I love the reason your grandparents got married on May 5th--so funny!

  2. Thanks Vanessa! I thought it was cute. =)

  3. The story of your grandparents is sooo cute and unique! love it!

    These tips are awesome! Good job. It's funny, my hubby's earlobes are like that too! We were just discuss that in the car the other day!! I love your tip about spraying cologne into the air! I'm going to do that when I miss him!!

  4. Hehe, my hubby has the same kind of earlobes! I make fun of him too, and tell him our kids better not get his funny attached earlobes :-)